When I work with clients I get asked many things, and last week I got asked what I believe is the best exercise for people to do. We may have little control of the people and events around us, but we can control how we treat our body.
And by practicing self care we build a strong healthy body ready to weather the storms that life inevitably throws at us.
When we’re feeling centred we aren’t falling over ourselves to please people, and we aren’t toppled over by someone’s attempt to manipulate or intimidate us. Instead we stay in control of our response, we don’t react to a situation. Instead we respond from a calmer, more present place, and not let our heads (and our thoughts!) run away with us.
If you recognise that you easily get thrown by situations and get carried off by negative thoughts, then it’s time shift your sense of self.
People often come to see me as a coach and hypnotherapist to help them break habits; whether it’s smoking, over indulging in alcohol at the weekends, having an addiction to sugar or even the after-dinner munchies.
And for a lot of people breaking a habit is not quite as simple as waking up one day and deciding that you’re done. So here are 3 tricks I teach my clients to help break bad habits.
Have you ever experienced that creeping sense of panic or anxiety if something doesn’t quite live up to the standards of being ‘perfect’? There is a difference in striving for excellence and demanding perfection.
It’s easy when you fall into the perfectionist trap to believe that the ‘right’ moment will come. That ‘perfect’ moment to start that project or finish that activity. And so, you wait. And you wait. And perhaps you wait some more. From the outside, we call this procrastinating. But in your mind, you know this ‘perfect’ moment will come and you’ll be ready to deliver and create your best work.
In order to create any type of meaningful change in life we need to know where we want to go, at least have a general direction in mind.
The first step is to get clear on your destination.
A vision not only helps to guide you forward, but also pumps up your motivation, and reminds you of your ‘Why’ e.g. the reason you started in the first place.
It’s very easy when life speeds up to speed up with it. Think hamster on a hamster wheel, whizzing around and around….and around. At some point the speed generated by the wheel (aka life) makes the hamster’s little legs go faster and faster, until at some point you could almost be forgiven for thinking that the wheel is going faster than the hamster actually wants to go.
A common theme I come across in my coaching work is a lack of motivation to either get started on a project, or to stay on track once you’ve started it. Whether this is a new exercise regime, meditation practice or a change in diet and lifestyle.
Motivation is the desire to do something. It drives us to not only start a new way of living, but also helps us to overcome the obstacles and barriers which inevitably get in the way.
When was the last time you sat with yourself? I mean really sat down with just your thoughts, with no distractions, no phone, just you.
For many of us that can be a daunting thought just on its own.
We live in an age of distraction with little time given to just sitting in stillness and facing the thoughts and feelings that live inside of us. In times where stress and anxiety levels are shooting through the roof, I believe it’s time we stepped closer to understanding that voice in our heads instead of numbing out the soundtrack.
We often associate fatigue and feeling low on energy with lack of sleep and too much stress. In fact there are many reasons why our bodies and our minds can feel tired – some more obvious than others. From an imbalance in hormones to the common cold to being anaemic.
It can be hard to pin-point exactly what is causing that sluggish feeling, but when you start to map out your day-to-day habits, diet and stress levels, a few big clues start to show up.
Perhaps you already have a gratitude practice where you take the time on a regular basis to be thankful and express your gratitude. This may be in the form of a gratitude journal, a gratitude list, or even an evening practice at the dinner table.
But new habits and new practices can be hard to get started with, especially if your head is already bursting at the seams with to-do lists, busy family commitments and the hustle and bustle of life.
The word ‘should’ implies a duty or an obligation to do something. But here’s the big question, who is the obligation to? Who are we duty bound to it for? Who is this external ‘person’ that we handing our power over to?